Not sure of the OP’s sensation but when an institution creates highly visible programs supporting every single group except one, then it is a form of exclusion (albeit a negative form vs a positive form of exclusion). You could say that such policies are necessary or justified to redress historical inequalities. This is the traditional justification for such policies. Such an argument starts to break down over when those inequalities are less noticeable.
Inclusion efforts for women have nothing to do with exclusion of men.
This isn't exactly true. In a laudable attempt to help lift girls up from a young age, we've (likely inadvertently in most cases) neglected, or worse vilified, boys' learning needs.
I don't know if this has changed, but when I was an undergrad in math, all the summer REUs were for women and minorities. I applied to many all the same but never got to do any summer research, which definitely worked against me when applying for grad school. This wouldn't have pushed me out of college I suppose, but it made continuing beyond more difficult.
